Redirect

Using redirect for frustration tolerance Recognize what you want to see: Sticking with it, staying calm, coming up with new ideas, trying again. Use the skill: Imagine your child gets very frustrated. Get excited about something else your child really likes. Do that for awhile. Then go back to the first activity. Purpose:Frustration is normal! […]

Adjust the Environment

Using adjust the environment for frustration tolerance Recognize what you want to see: Sticking with it, staying calm, coming up with new ideas, trying again. Use the skill: Just sitting next to your child while they are doing something hard can provide support and let you be quicker to help when needed. Purpose:Add yourself to […]

Transitions

Using transitions for frustration tolerance Recognize what you want to see: Sticking with it, staying calm, coming up with new ideas, trying again. Use the skill: Use transitions for frustrating tasks. For example, “You have just 2 more homework questions, then we can play.”  Purpose:Transitions let your child prepare to stop doing something they like. […]

Enjoy

Using enjoy for frustration tolerance Recognize what you want to SEE: Sticking with it, staying calm, coming up with new ideas, trying again. Use the skill: If you are building a tower and it falls, you could say “Wow what a big crash! I’m excited to try again and see if we can make it […]

Describe

Using descriptions frustration tolerance Recognize what you want to SEE: Sticking with it, staying calm, coming up with new ideas, trying again. Use the skill: Describe what your child is doing as they work on something hard. For example, “You got the blue piece. You’re deciding which way it faces. You’re putting it on. And […]

Imitate

Using imitation for frustration tolerance Recognize what you want to see: Sticking with it, staying calm, coming up with new ideas, trying again. Use the skill: Imagine your child is struggling to make something and comes up with a new idea. You could imitate by saying, “I’m going to try that too.” Then follow along. […]

Reflect

Using reflections for frustration tolerance Recognize what you want to see: Sticking with it, staying calm, coming up with new ideas, trying again. Use the skill: Reflect when your child is trying to stay calm. For example, your child says they’re mad because little brother wrecked something. Reflect “You’re mad that he wrecked it. That […]

Praise

Using praise for frustration tolerance Recognize what you want to see: Sticking with it, staying calm, coming up with new ideas, and trying again. Use the skill: Praise whenever you see your child staying calm or sticking with a hard activity. For example, “Great job staying calm when that fell.” or “I love how you […]