Recovery
Using recovery for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude. Use the skill: After helping your child clean their room, you could take a walk to the playground, have a dance party in the clean space, or watch a favorite show together. Purpose:When […]
Hand-Over-Hand
Using hand-over-hand for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude. Use the skill: Hand-over-hand is not very helpful for changing attitudes. But, you can use it to teach your child how to do things that make them annoyed or frustrated. Purpose:The negative attitude […]
Effective Commands
Using effective commands for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude Use the skill: This skill is generally not helpful for this goal. Try to use other skills instead. Purpose:In general, strategic attention, when-then statements, and re-doing will be more effective for changing […]
Consistent Consequences
Using consistent consequences for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude Use the skill: Possible praise: “thank you for telling me how you feel.” “Thank you for helping.” Possible negative consequence: not getting what they demand, adding another chore, spending 2-5 minutes alone […]
Redoing
Using a redo for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude Use the skill: You might say, “Try that again. When you use kind words, then we can discuss this.” Purpose: A redo with a when-then statement is a great way to correct […]
Modeling
Using modeling for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude Use the skill: Talk about doing things you don’t want to do. “I don’t really feel like washing the dishes tonight, but I’m gong to do it because I know it’s important.” Purpose:Notice […]
Rules
Using rules for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude Use the skill: Try a rule for respect like, “The rule is to speak to each other with respect. If you speak respectfully, the other person will listen to your concerns and try […]
Choices
Using choices for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude Use the skill: Try giving choices between two tasks. For example, “It’s time for chores. You can either take out the trash or put away the dishes today.” Purpose:Give your child choices for […]
When-Then/If-Then
Using when-then & if-then statements for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude Use the skill: Let your child know how to show a better attitude and why. For example, “When you speak to me with respect, then I will answer you.” Purpose:Use […]
Strategic Attention
Using strategic attention for having a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude Use the skill: Try to ignore the negative attitude. Give attention to any positive behaviors. Purpose:The more attention you give a bad attitude, the more annoyed and frustrated your child will […]
