Using consistent consequences for
Recognize what you want to see:
Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude
Use the skill:
Possible praise: “thank you for telling me how you feel.” “Thank you for helping.”
Possible negative consequence: not getting what they demand, adding another chore, spending 2-5 minutes alone to calm down, or losing access to screens or a preferred activity.
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Purpose:
Strategic attention and when-then statements are usually better at changing an attitude than negative consequences. If your child is highly disrespectful and the other skills aren't working, you might need to create rules or give commands with negative consequences.
