Using rules for
Recognize what you want to see:
Feeling safe, calmly talking about feelings, acting brave.
Use the skill:
Use rules for behaviors. For example, “The rule is children must go to school unless they are sick. If you go to school today, then I have some fun games planned for after school. But, if you tell me you cannot go to school, then that means you are sick and you will have to spend the day in bed resting with no tv or toys.”
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Purpose:
It is OK to feel afraid or anxious. Any rules should be for specific behaviors. In general, use other skills first.
But, clear rules help children feel safe and protected. Rules like going to school, brushing teeth, and speaking kindly can help children feel safer, even if they are angry about the rule.
