Recovery

Using recovery for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: After the consequence, use your own calming skills. Then spend some time in calm or fun play until […]

Hand-Over-Hand

Using helping for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: If you are very quick, you might stop a very young child before they hit or bite. Redirect […]

Effective Commands

Using effective commands for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: You might use a command like, “It’s ok to be angry, but please use your words to […]

Consistent Consequences

Using consistent consequences for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: Possible praise: “You are playing so nicely together!”  Possible negative consequence: spending a short amount of time […]

Redoing

Using a redo for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: After a consequence, you can offer a redo, like “I’m proud of you for calming down. Now […]

Modeling

Using modeling for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: You probably don’t hit or bite other people. But, make sure you treat others with kindness and respect […]

Rules

Using rules for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: A possible rule for the car is, “The rule is to keep your hands on your side of […]

Choices

Using choices for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: You might give choices about apologizing. For example, “It is not ok to hit. You have a choice: […]

When-Then/If-Then

Using when-then & if-then statements for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: Intervene right away for aggression. For example, “If you hit your sibling again, you will […]

Strategic Attention

Using strategic attention for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: Don’t ignore physical aggression. But, try to ignore yelling, blaming, or whining. Praise when your child is […]