Imitate

Using imitation for Stalling, Delaying Recognize the behavior: Takes too long  to get dressed. Identify what you want to see: Picking out clothes quickly. Use the Skill: Depending on your morning routine, you can plan to get dressed at the same time as your child. You could say, “I’m going to go get dressed too.” […]

Reflect

Using reflections for reducing parent stress and frustration Recognize what you want to see: Staying calm and feeling confident as a parent. Use the skill: Reflect your child before getting upset. For example, your child tells you somebody pushed them at school. Take a deep breath and reflect, “Someone pushed you today.” Then pause to […]

Reflect

Using reflections for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude Use the skill: Reflect whenever your child is respectful or has a good attitude. For example, your child has been in a negative mood then asks kindly, “Could you play a game with […]

Reflect

Using reflections for reducing anxiety and feeling safe Recognize what you want to see: Feeling safe, calmly talking about feelings, acting brave. Use the skill: If your child comes to you very upset and crying, focus on reflecting the main points. Maybe say  “Something happened!” if you can’t understand exactly what they’re saying. Purpose: All […]

Reflect

Using reflections for frustration tolerance Recognize what you want to see: Sticking with it, staying calm, coming up with new ideas, trying again. Use the skill: Reflect when your child is trying to stay calm. For example, your child says they’re mad because little brother wrecked something. Reflect “You’re mad that he wrecked it. That […]

Reflect

Using reflections for better communication Recognize what you want to see: Calmly telling parents when they need help. Use the skill: Reflect when your child asks for help. For example, your child asks for a glass of milk. Reflect, “You want some milk. I’ll get it for you in a minute. I need to finish […]

Reflect

Using reflections for having more fun together Recognize what you want to see: Actively playing together Use the skill: Reflect your child during play. For example, your child says, “I think this is going to be a monster.” reflect, “Ooh, a monster.” Purpose: Use reflections to keep your child engaged in play. Listen to your […]

Reflect

Using reflections for overactivity Recognize the behavior: Constantly looking at other things when you are trying to read a story. Identify what you want to see: Focusing on the book. Use the Skill: Reflect what your child says about the book or story. For example, your child says, “That’s the bear!” You can repeat “That […]

Reflect

Using reflections for interrupting Recognize the behavior: Repeatedly calls your name and pulls on your arm while you are talking to an adult. Identify what you want to see: Staying quiet while you finish talking. Use the Skill: Do not reflect your child while they are interrupting. When you are finished speaking, ask your child […]

Reflect

Using reflections for picking fights Recognize the behavior: Throws a ball at a child on the playground. Identify what you want to see: Playing nicely with other kids. Use the Skill:  Imagine your child says, “I don’t know why I threw it.” Reflect them. For example, “You don’t know why you threw it. I get […]