Redirect

Using redirect for reducing parent stress and frustration Recognize what you want to see: Staying calm and feeling confident as a parent. Use the skill: When you get annoyed, redirect by telling a funny story, having a tickle fight, or turning on your favorite song for a dance party. Purpose:It is frustrating to correct your […]

Adjust the Environment

Using adjust the environment for reducing parent stress and frustration Recognize what you want to see: Staying calm and feeling confident as a parent. Use the skill: Try to remove or change things that cause a lot of stress. Make sure you have support, like a partner, parent, friend, or nanny. Purpose:It is stressful to […]

Transitions

Using transitions for reducing parent stress and frustration Recognize what you want to see: Staying calm and feeling confident as a parent. Use the skill: Use transitions throughout the day. For example, “We’re leaving for school in 5 minutes.” Purpose:Transitions help you prepare for change, too! When you know what’s coming, you’ll feel calmer and […]

Recovery

Using recovery for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude. Use the skill: After helping your child clean their room, you could take a walk to the playground, have a dance party in the clean space, or watch a favorite show together. Purpose:When […]

Hand-Over-Hand

Using helping for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude. Use the skill: Helping can’t really change your child’s attitude. But, you can help your child learn how to do things that make them annoyed or frustrated. Purpose:The negative attitude might come from […]

Effective Commands

Using effective commands for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude Use the skill: This skill is generally not helpful for this goal. Try to use other skills instead. Purpose:In general, strategic attention, when-then statements, and re-doing will be more effective for changing […]

Consistent Consequences

Using consistent consequences for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude Use the skill: Possible praise: “thank you for telling me how you feel.” “Thank you for helping.”  Possible negative consequence: not getting what they demand, adding another chore, spending 2-5 minutes alone […]

Redoing

Using a redo for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude Use the skill: You might say, “Try that again. When you use kind words, then we can discuss this.” Purpose: A redo with a when-then statement is a great way to correct […]

Modeling

Using modeling for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude Use the skill: Talk about doing things you don’t want to do. “I don’t really feel like washing the dishes tonight, but I’m gong to do it because I know it’s important.” Purpose:Notice […]

Rules

Using rules for a better attitude Recognize what you want to see: Being respectful and kind, doing something with a good attitude Use the skill: Try a rule for respect like, “The rule is to speak to each other with respect. If you speak respectfully, the other person will listen to your concerns and try […]