Using rules for
Recognize what you want to see:
Sticking with it, staying calm, coming up with new ideas, trying again.
Use the skill:
Try a rule like, “It is OK to be angry, but the rule is to treat your toys with respect all the time. If you play gently and nicely with your toys, you can keep playing with them. If you throw or break your toys when you get upset, then I will put them away for the next hour.”
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Purpose:
Usually other skills work better than rules for frustration tolerance. If your child gets aggressive or destructive when frustrated, then it could be a good idea to set a rule about these behaviors. It is always OK to feel frustrated, angry, sad, or upset. It is only the behaviors that should have rules.
