Recovery

Using recovery for screaming Recognize the behavior: Throwing a loud tantrum. Identify what you want to see: Using strategies to calm down when upset. Use the Skill: As a tantrum ends, you can model calming skills to start recovery. As your child calms down, praise them for calming their body. Then find something calm to […]

Hand-Over-Hand

Using helping for screaming Recognize the behavior: Throwing a loud tantrum. Identify what you want to see: Using strategies to calm down when upset. Use the Skill: In the middle of a tantrum, you might help with coregulation. Help young children learn new skills so they get upset less often.  Purpose: Helping is best when […]

Effective Commands

Using effective commands for screaming Recognize the behavior: Throwing a loud tantrum. Identify what you want to see: Using strategies to calm down when upset. Use the Skill: Help avoid tantrums by using effective commands. They make sure your child knows what to do and that you are calm.  Purpose: Effective commands can help your […]

Consistent Consequences

Using consistent consequences for screaming Recognize the behavior: Throwing a loud tantrum. Identify what you want to see: Using strategies to calm down when upset. Use the Skill: Possible praise: “Great job staying calm!” or “Thank you for listening calmly.” Possible negative consequence: not getting to do a fun activity that day, or being late […]

Redoing

Using a redo for screaming Recognize the behavior: Throwing a loud tantrum. Identify what you want to see: Using strategies to calm down when upset. Use the Skill:  After your child is calm, you might say “I’m proud of you for calming down. Now, let’s try that again. When you clean up, then we can […]

Modeling

Using modeling for screaming Recognize the behavior: Throwing a loud tantrum. Identify what you want to see: Using strategies to calm down when upset. Use the Skill: Try to model calming skills when you are upset and when you see your child getting upset.  Purpose: Modeling shows your child how to make good choices. Teach […]

Rules

Using rules for screaming Recognize the behavior: Throwing a loud tantrum. Identify what you want to see: Using strategies to calm down when upset. Use the Skill: Set up a rule like, “The rule in our house is to use inside voices, even when we are upset. If you follow the rule all day today, […]

Choices

Using choices for screaming Recognize the behavior: Throwing a loud tantrum. Identify what you want to see: Using strategies to calm down when upset. Use the Skill:   Your child might tantrum at bedtime. You give choices like, “It’s bedtime. Would you like to walk or be carried to your room?”  Purpose: Choices can help […]

When-Then/If-Then

Using when-then & if-then statements for screaming Recognize the behavior: Throwing a loud tantrum. Identify what you want to see: Using strategies to calm down when upset. Use the Skill: After you praise for staying calm, when-then statements can teach why that’s helpful. For example, “When you stay calm, it’s easier to think of a […]

Strategic Attention

Using strategic attention for screaming Recognize the behavior: Throwing a loud tantrum. Identify what you want to see: Using strategies to calm down when upset. Use the Skill: Try to stay quiet and not say anything. You might sit nearby and model calming skills. When they are calm, be sure to use your PRIDE skills. […]