Reflect

Using reflections for carelessness Recognize the behavior: Drops your phone. Identify what you want to see: Carefully holding your phone. Use the Skill: Imagine your child is being careful. Reflect when they tell you what they are doing. Purpose: Reflecting lets your child feel heard and know they have your attention. In this situation, imagine […]

Reflect

Using reflections for Screaming Recognize the behavior: Throwing a loud tantrum. Identify what you want to see: Using strategies to calm down when upset. Use the Skill: Imagine your child says, “This is really hard.” Reflect your child before they tantrum. For example, “This is hard. I can help if you want.” Purpose: Remember only […]

Reflect

Using reflections for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: If your child says “They took my toy!”, reflect them. For example, “They did take it.” Then praise […]

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Using reflections for defiance Recognize the behavior: Refuses to leave a friend’s house when it’s time to go home. Identify what you want to see:  Saying goodbye and leaving the house Use the Skill: Imagine your child says, “I don’t want to go!” Reflect their feelings. For example, “You don’t want to go. I’d love […]

Reflect

Using reflections for Mealtime troubles Recognize the behavior: Gets out of chair repeatedly. Identify what you want to see: Staying in the chair. Use the Skill: Reflect what your child says during mealtime.  For example, imagine your child says, “We played kickball today.” Repeat back “Kickball! I’m excited to hear about it.”  Purpose: Reflecting lets […]