Redoing

Using a redo for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: After a consequence, you can offer a redo, like “I’m proud of you for calming down. Now […]

Modeling

Using modeling for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: You probably don’t hit or bite other people. But, make sure you treat others with kindness and respect […]

Rules

Using rules for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: A possible rule for the car is, “The rule is to keep your hands on your side of […]

Choices

Using choices for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: You might give choices about apologizing. For example, “It is not ok to hit. You have a choice: […]

When-Then/If-Then

Using when-then & if-then statements for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: Intervene right away for aggression. For example, “If you hit your sibling again, you will […]

Strategic Attention

Using strategic attention for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: Don’t ignore physical aggression. But, try to ignore yelling, blaming, or whining. Praise when your child is […]

Redirect

Using redirect for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: Young child: You could pick the child up and move them.  Older child: You could sit between the […]

Adjust the Environment

Using adjust the environment for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: You could move your children further apart when they play. Or, sit between them while they […]

Transitions

Using transitions for aggression Recognize the behavior: Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy. Identify what you want to see: Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy. Use the Skill: One option is to set a timer for turn taking. This lets each child know they will get […]

Recovery

Using recovery for mealtime troubles Recognize the behavior: Gets out of chair repeatedly. Identify what you want to see: Staying in the chair. Use the Skill: If you have a difficult mealtime, give yourself and your child a chance to calm down. Then find something fun or relaxing to do together to focus on what’s […]