Rules

Using rules for carelessness Recognize the behavior: Drops your phone. Identify what you want to see: Carefully holding your phone. Use the Skill: Try a rule like, “The rule is to hold my phone carefully in your hands. If you hold it carefully, you can keep playing. If you drop the phone, I will put […]

Choices

Using choices for carelessness Recognize the behavior: Drops your phone. Identify what you want to see: Carefully holding your phone. Use the Skill: Give choices for how to use the phone. For example, “You have two choices: you can hold my phone carefully, or I can hold it for you.” Purpose: Choices give children a […]

When-Then/If-Then

Using when-then & if-then statements for carelessness Recognize the behavior: Drops your phone. Identify what you want to see: Carefully holding your phone. Use the Skill: Follow up your praise for being careful with a when-then statement. For example, “When you are careful, I’m happy to let you play on my phone.”    Purpose: When-then & […]

Strategic Attention

Using strategic attention for carelessness Recognize the behavior: Drops your phone. Identify what you want to see: Carefully holding your phone. Use the Skill: Try to use skills like redirect and when-then statements. Then give lots of positive attention for being careful with the phone. Purpose: Strategic attention lets your child know what you like. Your […]

Redirect

Using redirect for carelessness Recognize the behavior: Drops your phone. Identify what you want to see: Carefully holding your phone. Use the Skill: Redirect your child’s attention back to the phone by describing what you see or wondering what they will do next. Purpose: Carelessness usually happens when your child gets distracted. Redirecting helps them […]

Adjust the Environment

Using adjust the environment for carelessness Recognize the behavior: Drops your phone. Identify what you want to see: Carefully holding your phone. Use the Skill: Adjust the phone or how your child holds it. Try a drop-proof phone case. Or, attach a wrist band to your phone for your child to wear. Purpose: Adjusting the […]

Transitions

Using transitions for carelessness Recognize the behavior: Drops your phone. Identify what you want to see: Carefully holding your phone. Use the Skill: Transitions might not be very helpful with this concern. Try other skills like descriptions or when-then statements. Purpose: Transitions help children move from one activity to the next. If your child is […]

Recovery

Using recovery for interrupting Recognize the behavior: Repeatedly calls your name and pulls on your arm while you are talking to an adult. Identify what you want to see: Staying quiet while you finish talking. Use the Skill: Make sure to give lots of positive attention to your child when you are done talking. Purpose: […]

Helping

Using helping for interrupting Recognize the behavior: Repeatedly calls your name and pulls on your arm while you are talking to an adult. Identify what you want to see: Staying quiet while you finish talking. Use the Skill: You might use a redo and help your child raise their hand. Then you could say, “Now […]

Effective Commands

Using effective commands for interrupting Recognize the behavior: Repeatedly calls your name and pulls on your arm while you are talking to an adult. Identify what you want to see: Staying quiet while you finish talking. Use the Skill: In the moment, you could use a command like, “Please let me finish before you ask […]