Using when-then & if-then statements for
Recognize the behavior:
Throwing a loud tantrum.
Identify what you want to see:
Using strategies to calm down when upset.
Use the Skill:
After you praise for staying calm, when-then statements can teach why that’s helpful. For example, “When you stay calm, it’s easier to think of a new plan.”
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Purpose:
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It is hard to learn how to stay calm when you're upset. Combine your praise for staying calm with a when-then statement. This will help your child feel confident and know why staying calm is helpful.
In the middle of a tantrum, children cannot have conversations. In this situation, you might say, "When you are ready, I'm here to talk" or "When your body is calm, then we can go back to playing." Make sure to use strategic attention and model your calming strategies after making that statement.
Remember that when-then & if-then statements are most helpful when you also use the other PC-CARE skills.
