Using reflections for
Recognize the behavior:
Refuses to leave a friend’s house when it’s time to go home.
Identify what you want to see:
Saying goodbye and leaving the house
Use the Skill:
Imagine your child says, “I don’t want to go!” Reflect their feelings. For example, “You don’t want to go. I’d love to stay too, but we have to get home for dinner.”
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Purpose:
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Defiance pits children against their parents. Reflections let your child have a voice. In this situation, reflecting lets your child feel heard in the moment. They still need to listen to you, but they know you understand them. Remember only to reflect positive or appropriate words.
Remember that reflections are most helpful when you also use the other PC-CARE skills.
