Redirect

Using redirect for defiance Recognize the behavior: Refuses to leave a friend’s house when it’s time to go home. Identify what you want to see:  Saying goodbye and leaving the house. Use the Skill: Talk about how you are getting ready to go.  Maybe talk about the fun things you will do when you get […]

Adjust the Environment

Using adjust the environment for defiance Recognize the behavior: Refuses to leave a friend’s house when it’s time to go home. Identify what you want to see:  Saying goodbye and leaving the house. Use the Skill: One idea is to check how many toys are out 15 minutes before you leave. Help put extra toys […]

Transitions

Using transitions for defiance Recognize the behavior: Refuses to leave a friend’s house when it’s time to go home. Identify what you want to see:  Saying goodbye and leaving the house. Use the Skill: Use transitions to prepare to leave. For example, you could set a timer or say  “Choose one last activity before we […]

Enjoy

Using enjoy for defiance Recognize the behavior: Refuses to leave a friend’s house when it’s time to go home. Identify what you want to see:  Saying goodbye and leaving the house Use the Skill: It’s sad to leave a friend’s house. Point out how much fun you had and how excited you are to go […]

Describe

Using descriptions for defiance Recognize the behavior: Refuses to leave a friend’s house when it’s time to go home. Identify what you want to see:  Saying goodbye and leaving the house Use the Skill: Describe actions that help with leaving. For example, “You got your shoes.” “You picked up all your toys.” Purpose: Descriptions help […]

Imitate

Using imitation for Defiance Recognize the behavior: Refuses to leave a friend’s house when it’s time to go home. Identify what you want to see:  Saying goodbye and leaving the house Use the Skill: Let your child come up with a goodbye routine. For example, a fist bump or hug. You can do the routine […]

Reflect

Using reflections for defiance Recognize the behavior: Refuses to leave a friend’s house when it’s time to go home. Identify what you want to see:  Saying goodbye and leaving the house Use the Skill: Imagine your child says, “I don’t want to go!” Reflect their feelings. For example, “You don’t want to go. I’d love […]

Praise

Using praise for defiance Recognize the behavior: Refuses to leave a friend’s house when it’s time to go home. Identify what you want to see:  Saying goodbye and leaving the house Use the Skill: Even if it takes a while, praise as you leave. For example, “Great job saying goodbye to our friends!” Make your […]