Using effective commands for
Recognize the behavior:
Hits or bites a sibling who took their toy.
Identify what you want to see:
Staying calm and asking for help when the sibling takes the toy.
Use the Skill:
You might use a command like, “It’s ok to be angry, but please use your words to tell me what happened.”
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Purpose:
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Effective commands tell your child that something needs to be done right now. Other strategies, like rules, usually work better to reduce aggression. Commands can help your child focus on what they need to do next. But, only use commands if your child has the physical and emotional ability to do what you want them to do. If you give a command, you should be ready to follow through with consistent consequences.
Remember that effective commands are most helpful when you also use the other PC-CARE skills.